Things That I Hope For You
I made a list
I hope that you achieve everything that you dream of.
But most importantly, I hope that you see it in yourself as being capable of becoming the person who can have those things. Just because you don’t see it in yourself yet, or you can’t see how you’re going to get there, it doesn’t mean that you’re not capable
I hope that you find a love that fulfills you.
Not something that’s similar to what you’ve always experienced, with the high, highs, and the low, lows. I hope you experience something that’s safe and challenges you to become a better person because the other person is mirroring back to you the part of yourself that you always dreamed of being. With them, you see a version of yourself that represents your higher self. I hope you choose someone that’s safe for your nervous system and not someone that’s similar to what you’ve experienced in the past.
I hope that you stop seeing your mistakes as a flaw within yourself.
I hope that you stop seeing your mistakes as a flaw within yourself and start seeing your mistakes as a stepping stone to becoming a person that’s wise beyond their years because they’ve had enough courage to keep going, despite their shortcomings. Wisdom is built off of experience, not age. Respectfully, there are a lot of old people who are idiots because they’ve been running from themselves, lacking empathy for others in places where they lack empathy for themselves. Because they’ve been running from themselves their entire lives, they’ve spent their entire lives hurting other people in places where they refuse to see themselves fully.
I hope that you stop living your life for other people.
Don’t get me wrong, wanting to do for other people and make them feel appreciated makes you an amazing person. Never lose that side of yourself. I’m saying that there needs to be limitations and balances to that. People will take advantage of you if you lack boundaries. And oftentimes, the people with the kindest hearts are also people pleasers. We (yes, I’m talking about myself as well) let other people get the best of us and sometimes overlook our own needs for the sake of not being seen negatively. It’s ok to be afraid of people perceiving you badly. But it’s also ok to be seen as a bad person, especially when you haven’t done anything wrong. You can take all the right steps and set boundaries that respect yourself and your needs, and someone will always find a way to try and make you the bad guy. It’s not on you to manage that, and the quicker that you get to understand this, the quicker that it’ll be that you can be more secure in your needs and your boundaries.
I hope that you remember to take things at face value.
Sometimes you don’t need to dive deeper into meanings for it to make sense.
Maybe they’re just not as interested in you as much as you hope. If they did, they’d be doing something to match that in their actions.
Maybe the situation just doesn’t fit in the way that you originally thought it would. It’s ok to change your mind after realizing it’s not for you. It doesn’t need an explanation.
Maybe what you went through REALLY sucked and you shouldn’t have gone through that. I know that you want to make sense of it all and come up with an explanation of why it had to be you, so you can feel better about it and find closure. But there’s a lot of power in validating yourself. Let go of the need to control what happened and allow yourself to feel what you feel for a while. Thinking about what happened isn’t actually processing what happened. Allowing yourself to feel what you feel in your mind and body is how you heal faster.
I hope you take it easy on yourself.
I hope that you remember to smile today.
I hope that you remember that you’re lovable.
I hope that you understand that how you see yourself isn’t how other people see you. Chances are, a lot of people admire you for just being you. A lot of people are inspired by the person THEY see you as and not how you see yourself.
I hope that you allow yourself to rest.
I hope that you stand up for yourself.
I hope that you allow yourself to be seen.
I hope that you break out of your comfort zone every now and then.
I hope that you understand that healing can take a long time. And just because you can’t see the progress you’ve made so far, you remember to look back every now and then to see that you’ve already climbed mountains.
Most importantly, I hope that you continue to hope. There’s a younger version of yourself that’s looking at who you are right now, with so much hope and enthusiasm. They’re excited to become you. In hindsight, you see where you might’ve gone wrong from time to time. You can see all the memories that brought you to this point. But you can also see who you always dreamed of becoming. The younger version of yourself will always live inside of you, appreciating you for who you are and continue to be.